You first must fall

Today is a significant day for me, in that I received my first rejection letter today from a literary agent.

I’m reluctant to put this post on my blog for several reasons. First and foremost, because at the rate that I’ve been blogging I don’t have regular viewers, and so it’s clear that as of now nobody’s going to even read it. Secondly, the current primary purpose of my blogging is for cathartic release so I can find some improved direction through the chaos of my ramblings, that I might get some peace of mind knowing that I’m in a state of action instead of dejection and complacency. And I don’t necessarily need to put that up online to get that experience. Thirdly, this type of article will likely not be interesting to most people that are not writers, and I am still searching for what type of identity my blog should eventually take.

And as another strange way of me sublimating this depressing yet partly expected surge of negativity, I’ve decided to make a decision between two choices. Of course, our choices are close to infinite in reality. You never have only two choices in any given circumstance, but we reduce our choices to a few distinct selections to better grant structure to our lives, and create clearer direction. And I’m reminded of a scene from Fight Club where Tyler Durden mentions to Edward Norton’s character, that they can either kick fight club up a notch or shut it down for good. They were at a plateau in their journey. I’m at a plateau in my journey. I can either kick my writing up a notch, or shut it down. And if I might reduce the options even further, shutting it down is not an option for me. I need to write. I need it for my own sanity. It’s not so much a desire as it is a necessity now.

That’s one rejection letter from a literary agent. I’m sure there will be more to come. I’ll need to re-think my plan to a writing career. And I may need to parse down the word count of the manuscript (250,000+ words might be too much). And I’ll need to build up a better writing platform. And I’ll need to keep working on my new novel, making sure to keep it closer to 100,000 words. And if there are other writers out there who read this who are having a similar experience, I wish you the best of luck on your way to literary success.

All in all, before you rise, you first must fall.

I can feel myself falling. I’m willing to write and fall better. Let’s fall some more.

420 thoughts on “You first must fall

    • No problem at all thank you so much for checking out my blog as well!! Thank you for the motivational comment, I’ll keep at it as best I can and hopefully this track takes me to the right station in life 🙂

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  1. I am also trying to write (still not yet at a point even close to trying to publish) but I can really understand what you mean!
    I hope you succeed, and I’m glad it sounds like you’re keeping at it. It’s good to hear from someone further along in the literary adventure! Look forward to hearing more from you!

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    • So happy you feel where I’m coming from! I hope you succeed in your literary endeavors as well, we should both certainly keep at it and thank you so much for checking out my blog!!

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  2. There is a saying in the sales world that you have to go through no to get to yes. Take what you can from the rejection letter and use it to improve. Fail better next time. AND write about it. Either here or in your journal. Won’t it feel GREAT to look back one day and marvel at how far you’ve come? YES!

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    • I certainly hope so! And I agree with that saying, you have to go through no to get to yes, I’m doing my best to turn scheiße into sugar so they say and produce something positive and move forward, hopefully positive things lay in the future!! Thank you for the inspiring comment!!

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  3. Never give up. JK Rowling had tons of rejections now look 🙂 F Scott Fitzgerald is more famous now than when alive. I know lots of struggling artists. They are so disenchanted at times and want to quit but so far haven’t. Never give up. Van Gogh wasn’t appreciated till he was gone. Bothers me that happens in the creative world. Too many people dont appreciate it.

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    • Thank you so much for this inspirational comment, it would be an honor to just be published and read by even a small community in the future, and it is sad that too often many artists of all varieties from painters to musicians to poets never get the notoriety they deserve in life, or at the very least not until very much later. Such is the way of the world, but it’s too much of an addiction for me at this point I don’t know that I’ll ever stop and I’m happy to know that your friends won’t stop as well, we all have to stay true to our passions, all the best to you 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for the encouragement and the kind words.. I’ll do my best to keep at it and learn as much as I can to build upon what style I have and to improve my literary technique, thank you for this comment!!

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      • Thank you so much for this kind comment!! I appreciate your compliment of my style, I try to just put down what’s on my mind and I’m very grateful that people have connected with it. I certainly hope the no is one answer close to the yes, thank you very much for the encouragement to keep on writing!! Have a wonderful day!! 🙂

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  4. When I first started my silliness, I had a stack of rejections that really depressed me. Now? I write for myself. If someone likes it, Great! If not, then they quit reading my stories and statements but I keep on writing, trying to improve my work. I am a published author ( 2 people have purchased my work, so I’m published 🙂 but in my case, publishing wasn’t my goal. Like others who’ve told you “keep it up” I’ll offer the same advice, “Keep it up”. Oh, and rejections are like little love letters IF the rejector says more than “we’re not accepting new authors”. IF they tell you what you did wrong, in their opinion, then use that info to help you become a better writer. In the end only YOU can decide how good or bad your work really is.

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    • Thank you for these kind words of advice! I hear that I write for myself as well, getting published with a commercial publisher would be a welcome blessing but for the most part I do write primarily for my own well being and entertainment, thank you so much for the kind comment and best of luck with your writing as well!! Happy blogging!! 🙂

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  5. Hi there. Have you considered making it an ebook. I’m not sure if the normal publishing channels, want “all your rights to your book (electronic, hard cover, and audio) but you do not have to give up all your rights to yourr work with an ebook. Additionally, you can test the market for your book, and get feed back. If it selols as an electronic book, then you have a track record you can reffer to. Also you can publish “print on demand, or unpublish your work if it is a winner, and go the route your going now. You have a ton of options. The lenghth of a book seems to be a significant factor to it’s salability. Publishers want no risk and big profits, and they could almost publish three books for the price of publishing one your size.
    I’ll give you my opinion for what it’s worth. Do what you love, and if you need more money, get a side job if possible. Write your book your way, if it is for you. Write your book, for others, if they are going to be reading it. The more people you want to read your work, the more you’ll have to shape it to fit what people want.
    Good luck

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    • Very productive and positive advice thank you! I’m strongly considering publishing first as an e-book and then seeing how things pan out, though I do want to trim it down before I even go that route, and yes I hear you publishers want no risk and big profits like you said. I agree I need to shape it to fit the market, and that’s the challenge fitting it to the market and feeling out what writing works and what doesn’t work, I’m trying to pick up new knowledge as I go. Thank you for the positive advice and the well wishes! I agree with what you were saying in that post you put up, most books put out represent a re-packaging of thoughts all ready thought at one time or another, whether the writer is conscious of that fact or not. I just hope that whatever I’ve written can somehow resonate with people and maybe speak to some truth about the human spirit, thank you once again for this kind and productive comment!! All the best to you!!

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      • If you want to go the route of an ebook, you could break it up into smaller pieces, about 50 to 80k each. Offer the first book in the series free or at a low price and sell the rest for a higher price. Quite a few big sellers on Kindle do it that way as a means to get people interested, and you’d have an advantage because the series is complete.
        Good luck with whatever you decide.

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      • Thank you very much for this idea! I’ve been considering an approach similar to this but I haven’t quite decided yet, I really appreciate getting input from other writers though it really helps me make a more informed decision about what would be a solid approach. Thanks once again and best of luck in your literary pursuits as well!

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  6. your welcome. See,…even my terrible spelling didn’t turn you off. God,…I should read what I write before I post. Oh well, it just goes to show you that if you have what people want, then they won’t even notice little imperfections in your work. Alternately, if they are not interested in it, then being very criticle of it is so much easier for them. Don’t even get me started on critics!!!

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    • I didn’t even notice any spelling errors until you mentioned it then I noticed critical just now lmao but yes I won’t get you started on critics! I see very little use in most heavy critiques of literary works, if you micro-analyze anything you can always find imperfections. I’m always reminded of a Murakami quote when it comes to writing though, something along the lines of “There’s no such thing as perfect writing, just like there’s no such thing as perfect despair.” Happy writing and blogging!!

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  7. Hi, Oscar. You said you have to write and that you don’t know your blog voice yet.
    Do you. Just do you.
    If you need to write, then write and don’t worry about who sees it. Chances are what is of interest to you will also interest someone else. Write in your own voice and people will either appreciate it or not. Clearly, with as many comments as you have to just this post (273 as I am posting this), that is not an issue. You could make the best cake in the world, or the most beautiful pair of shoes in the world, or the greatest suit in the world and there simply will be others who do not feel the same way. It’s so individual. Actually, we wouldn’t have it any other way. We value individual taste.
    There are a million reasons why your MS could be rejected—none of which have anything to do with the quality, subject matter or length of your work. Did you read about J.K. Rowling’s rejections before some little tiny publisher finally agreed to publish Harry Potter? Amazing.
    You write because you have something to say. So, just say it. People have all sorts of rules about blogging. Don’t make your pieces too long. Be consistent. Do it often. Whatever. Ignore them and do what your heart tells you to do. Like you, I blog because I have something to organize in my head and something I need to get off my chest. Having someone else enjoy it is a bonus. I didn’t do it for them. I did it for me. And if it resonates with others, I love it. But, the minute I do it for them, I’m not going to be true to me because I’m then seeking their approval.
    If you don’t know it, figure out your goal. That will dictate what you do. If you want money or fame from blogging, then follow the rules that get you there. But, that’s totally different than doing it purely because you have something to say. I was once a labor mediator/arbitrator. One day during a break, one of the lawyers for one of the parties came up to me and told me he’d seen (on a legal website, long before the Internet as we know it was popular) some of the legal articles I’d written. I was glad he told me that. Once he did, I knew I was going to stop being a labor arbitrator. I knew that it would be difficult for me to write legal articles without having potential future clients in my head. As between my legal writing and my arbitration, I chose the writing. I wanted my mind clear for whatever conclusions I thought my legal analysis brought me to rather than what I thought would make me someone who would be chosen to arbitrate a dispute. I never regretted the decision.
    I’m sure this is far more than you’d care to hear, but there you have it. Keep up the good work.

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    • Thank you so much for putting down such a thoughtful comment!! I’m doing my best to just do me but I’m slowly trying to strike a balance between what a readership requires of me and what I need to stay true to the voice I’m finding. All in all, I agree that I write mainly for my own satisfaction, but I love writing so much that I would love to be able to make a career out of it so I could just do it all day everyday. I appreciate getting thoughtful comments from readers, it gives me a sense that something I’ve said has resonated with them, and for that I’m deeply grateful. I’m slowly navigating my way through this somewhat foreign world, thank you so much once again for the positive vibes and for the encouragement to stay true to myself!! 🙂

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  8. They say that artists of any ilk must have thick skin. Writers, artists, poets, sculptors, actors, all get the rejection letter, the bad review, the no thanks. Some hang up the easel, or put away the chisel, but most, those who love what they do, continue on. It is their passion, part of them, without that passion, they would not be whole. We fall down, we pick ourselves up, we allow a little whine or wine or both, and we do it all again. Whether we do it for ourselves, or others, we can only strive to make it the best it can be at that time. One rejection letter is just that, one rejection letter. I do not like every author I read, or painting I see. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t good, just that I don’t like it. There are many agents, publishers, fans, and somewhere , there will be the one. So keep on keeping on. Write until your eyes are blurry and your fingers cramp from keyboard or pen. Just keep writing.

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    • Thank you so much for this encouraging comment!! I’ll keep on writing until the point where my fingers ache, and I do my best to keep a thick skinned mindstate. I don’t anticipate everything to always be sunshine and rainbows in a world like this, and I agree that it’s completely understandable that for some people a piece of work might not resonate with them and they’ll discard it, and that’s just a reality of our being unique individuals with unique tastes looking for unique things in the pieces of art we like. Hopefully you’re right in that somewhere out there in the big vast world there’s an agent who believes I show some promise. Thank you once again for this comment perspectives like these help me keep on keeping on, best wishes to you!! 🙂

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  9. congratulations on your first rejection. When you have enough rejection slips to paper your kitchen – like I have – then you can consider a change of direction! I am now working on getting enough to paper my bedroom, which is much bigger.

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  10. Hey oscar, thanks for the like on my fledgling blog. I know what you may be going through. Have you considered self publishing, that’s the new wave out here and yes, 250,000 words may be a little much. Is there any way to divide you book into two or three parts? You can check out authormarketingclub.com for some really great resources and also the fastlaneforum.com for more tips. Both of these places really helped me out when I first started to write and you have ALOT of readers my friend. Great journey great story
    Cheers
    James

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    • No problem at all James, and yes indeed I’ve been thinking of going the self-publishing route though I’m not yet decided on what manner I will go about it. The word count is a bit too high, I’m trying to parse it down but I’ve taken something of a break from my manuscript while I work on a short story collection so I can return to it in the future with fresher more objective eyes. I appreciate your showing me some resources, and I’m very grateful to have a growing readership every new reader means a lot to me it’s been a long period I was just writing with nobody reading anything I wrote this is a very new experience for me haha thank you so much for the comment and the insights!! Cheers and best of luck to you!!

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  11. You are in very good company. All of us debut authors will receive countless rejections – although I’ve counted each and every one of mine – and we’ll keep going forward until our publishing goal is reached. I remind myself of this sentiment when I’m sending out yet another query: A winner is just a loser who tried one more time.

    I will echo previous comments by suggesting that a 250,000 word book is extremely large. Not sure what your genre is but unless you’re rewriting history, that’s a very difficult size for publishers to want to take on. That’s a 1000 page book and the author who can get away with that length is someone like Ken Follett. My current contemporary fiction novel – for which I am trying to get representation – is 65,000 words, down from 140,000 words in its first iteration. I learned that I don’t have to put absolutely everything into my novel; the temptation is very strong to do so but it’s not a good strategy.

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    • I agree I’m very much so trying to push down that word count. And definitely there should be no stopping until we reach our goals. It’s a grind. The temptation to put it all into the book you’re on is strong like you said, I’m doing my best to refine my approach and make my writing more economical as best I can. I’m taking it day by day, constructive comments like these really do wonders for me thank you for the positive vibes and best of luck to you in your literary pursuits!!

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  12. My friend, I am sure you will be a successful writer some day. I dont know you, you dont me, but that does not matter in that respect. Being successful in living your dream is not about how many words your novels have. It is solely about how much you are willing to take before you are successful. Keep working on your dream. Dont bother yourself too much with how you are going to do it. Just dont quit. No matter what, YOU WILL GO THROUGH THIS.

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    • Thank you so much for this motivational comment!! I agree, I don’t know how it will happen but I’m not going to stop until it happens. I’ll keep working on the dream, thank you once again!!!

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  13. Hi Oscar. I have only started writing since my son passed away last year. I am pleased if even that even one person reads what I write. Writing is healing for me. It is a way to connect with my heart, my ‘self’. It is not a literary exercise for me. Just my inner voice. The best language is silence. Words often don’t do justice to how we feel. They are a limitation within which we work. xxx Good luck with everything you do.

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    • I like that line a lot, ‘words often don’t do justice to how we feel.’ Too true, and I’m so very sorry for your loss.. Best of luck to you with all you go through, I don’t know what it’s like to lose a child but I lost my father last year and I found writing helped me a lot to get through that very dark period. I agree it helps us to better discover ourselves, I find it to be an exercise in self-exploration often. If nothing else writing is a very therapeutic exercise for me, and I pray it continues to be healing for you as well. Thank you for the comment, wish you nothing but the best 🙂

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  14. What you wrote is you realizing you are changing and aware of your shift. You write with your soul, so you are a writer and there is no good or bad ones, there is only writers who persist or quit. I read here that you have decided not to quit. Bravo, I admire that! Keep growing, it’s worth it! You have inspired me today and that is the real purpace of writing, in my opinion. So thank you. Christine 😀

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    • You are so very welcome I’m happy to send whatever positivity and inspiration I can your way through my writing!! I agree that’s one of the best purposes for writing, to connect with other souls and to move them. So happy you felt something reading what I’ve written, and I’m certainly not going to quit however long it takes and I’ll do my best to keep adapting and growing in the process!! Thank you so much for the positivity you’ve sent my way!! 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for this kind comment!! The positivity flowing from the blogosphere has been overwhelming, and I’m very humbled by it and grateful for it, the support has been tremendous. Positive comments like this give me even more fuel to keep going, thank you so much once again for your kind words!! 🙂

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  15. There’s a great story Stephen King tells about being a young writer. He put the rejection letters up next to his desk, nailed to the wall. After a while he had gathered so many rejections that he removed the nail and pounded a railroad spike into the wall to hold up the letters.

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    • Wow I never heard that story!! A railroad spike oh my God haha Stephen King has an amazing come up story, his book On Writing really inspired me even more to become a writer, thank you so much for the comment!!

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  16. Oscar, never give up! Never give up! I enjoyed reading this blog. Well written. Never give up! You have talent. Keep on keeping on! Never give up! This is a well written blog. I liked it a lot! Did I mention this, never give up!

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    • Thank you so much for this uplifting comment!! I’m not giving up I don’t plan on it, but I know it’s going to be a grind it won’t happen fast. I’m so happy you like what I’ve written it means the world to me to know that people who read my blog enjoy my writing!! Thank you so much once again for the positive vibes!!!

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  17. While I would not describe myself as a successful writer, having posted a weekly blog for over five years and written several non-fiction books (only one still in print), I probably have a bit of experience in the field. Admittedly, as a retired university professor (degrees in math/physics and computer science), my motivation probably is considerably different than yours: writing never will be my “profession”. Still, I occasionally receive requests for advice from other people desiring to get a start in the field.
    If this is what you want, keep at it: do not become discouraged and give up. You are in good company: Auntie Mame by Patrick Dennis was rejected by fifteen publishers, Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach by eighteen publishers, Kon-Tiki by Thor Heyerdahl – twenty rejections, The Peter Principle by Laurence Peter – sixteen times, Dubliners by James Joyce – twenty-two times, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig – 121 times, and even Carrie by Stephen King received thirty rejections. With only one rejection, you hardly have begun.
    The best-selling author Malcolm Gladwell postulated that anyone could achieve proficiency in a profession after 10,000 hours of dedicated and intensive honing of their skills. This is comparable to spending forty hours a week for almost five years. Yes, depending upon natural talent some people achieve success with less effort, others take longer.
    Keep in mind that it is not easy to write a good book. In fact, 98 percent of the books submitted to publishers and agents will be rejected. A quick perusal of bookstore shelves will show that most published works are at best third-rate.
    The majority of people who begin a book never complete it. By having at least submitted your manuscript, you are one up on the pack.

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    • Wow amongst that listing I actually never knew that Carrie was rejected so damn many times that’s insane. I’m familiar with Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, I know that proficiency in this field doesn’t happen over night and without a concerted effort, I’m certainly not going to stop keeping at it. I hope to just continue to build my skill set as a writer and to not stop working while I try to balance my pursuit of my dream with my day job. Thank you so much for the insightful and constructive comment I appreciate all the advice!!

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  18. It’s interesting what verbalising intention does as feedback into our intention, self-fulfilling prophecy vs affirmation vs catharsis. It’s even more potent when your verbalisation is accurate and articulate, such that you may in fact reinforce and even further refine your beliefs about something – merely by writing about them. That’s an interesting feedback loop to wield, as a whetted point as you forge ahead into the murky depths of incoherent, chaotic scattering of immediacy, entirety and infinity all violently chiming in meaningless awful unison, the erupting haze of reality sewn into ordinal cohesion as a written linear passage. Also interesting to plumb the depths of what reality is, and how writing is/isn’t reality. Clearly it has very real effects, even when it’s a fiction.
    Anyway, that’s my little spiel of curiosity. I think you have a very erudite grasp of the intersections between agency and structure, and I think you should push ahead with the apex of your writing and bringing meaning to the blank but impossibly heavy mass of reality. Open the doorways in the field of infinite potentials, who knows, maybe even win over a publisher or some other cataclysmic aversion.
    Also; have you read much of Ben Learner and Michael Clune? You might (at a guess) like them.

    Time’s Arrow/the river of time; each word is the substance we are made of, and yet the words have not yet all been said. Don’t stop.

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    • I feel like I had some type of metaphysical epiphany while reading the first paragraph of your comment haha thank you for this comment!! I really like that line at the start where you mention how verbalizing intention helps you refine your beliefs about a thing. I’ve actually never heard of Ben Learner and Michael Clune but I’ll be sure to keep an eye out for the, I just read a Ben Learner quote on Google that said ‘I could imagine it in a way that I felt like remembering’ he sounds like he has an interesting thought process. Thank you once again for the thoughtful comment, I dig the chaos of your writing style and I appreciate your analysis of my writing style, it’s tough for me to separate myself enough from it to look at my style objectively and I’m still at a phase where it seems my style shifts significantly depending on my overall mood. It’s going to be a long road ahead, and every bit of encouragement goes a long, long way for me. It’s been a long time that I’ve been writing without knowing whether or not it would resonate with people, and to suddenly have such an influx of positivity has been a blessing. I won’t stop.

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  19. Many (famous) writers were rejected before they managed to get published, so you’re in good company 😉 Hm, you said you don’t have a good planform or enough readership – look at all the comments here and people who liked your post! I’d be overwhelmed with support if I got that. Keep your chip up and keep enjoying writing. Someone will spot it and boom, you’ll have your book out. On the other hand, you can always self-publish.

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    • I hope that I can continue to get in their company in other ways that would be a blessing haha I’m very grateful to have so many people who have shown their support of my dream to get my book published, I am indeed overwhelmed but I know I can’t stop. I’ll be sure to keep my chin up and to continue to enjoy the creative process of writing, and hopefully an agent does connect with my story and decides to represent me for traditional publication, though I am considering multiple possible approaches with the latter route of self-publishing. I apologize if my thoughts are a bit disjointed it’s been a long day haha but thank you so much for the comment!!

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  20. Reblogged this on Ritatrevalyan’s Weblog and commented:
    You express the doubts and fears nearly all writers face very cogently. If you’re like me, Oscar, you can’t NOT write. It’s compulsion, not a mere career choice. You chose it because you MUST write. You don’t write because you want to , you write because you HAVE To. There’s a name for a condition like ours. It’s called hypergraphia. Go to NaNoWriMo.org, and sign up for Camp NaNoWriMo. Sign up to be my cabinmate. I think we can do wach other a lot of good.

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    • I completely agree I can’t not write, and these doubts are more universal than I initially realized. I’d never heard the word hypergraphia before haha thank you for introducing me to that word and thank you so much for the reblog!!

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  21. Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul, Success Principles) was rejected by over 100+ publishers. J.K. Rowling, Stephen King, all those great authors were rejected numerous times. Just keep at it! The difference between them and those that didn’t succeed is they kept going. You inspire me! My goal is to become a writer, and I have so many stories that I’ve started and never finished. You’ve gotten as far as a rejection letter from a publicist. If you keep going I know that rejection will turn into an acceptance.

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    • Thank you for the inspirational comment!! It is crazy to think about how many times such great authors like JK Rowling and Stephen King were rejected, their stories inspire me to keep at it. And I’m so happy I was able to give you whatever amount of inspiration I have, I sure hope you’re correct that the tide will turn somewhere down the road, thank you once again and happy writing!!

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      • No worries! That’s what we are all here for is to support each other on our individual road to success. When (and I’m never going to say the word “if”), but when your book gets published, let me know! I’ll be one of the firsts to buy a copy!

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      • I completely agree, and thank you soo so much!! I truly hope you’re right to use when instead of if haha I’ll be more than happy to let you know when that day comes, thank you so much once again for your readership!!! 🙂

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  22. Hello, Oscar….It’s funny how many similarities there are between writers and artists. Or maybe it’s not so funny. Rejection, be it letters or verbal, stings just the same. The fact is that if you don’t have connections in the publishing industry (or in any of the creative arts, for that matter), the going is that much tougher as far as trying to get that “big break” is concerned. I guess the thing is not to take the rejections personally. When it really comes down to it, you’ve got to keep on striving and creating. Sometimes you have to take baby steps towards that goal, even if it means that you work in dead-end jobs to support yourself while you work towards your ultimate goal. The one thing that I’ve found to be true is that whatever you do in life, it costs money, time, and energy. Since most of us don’t have wealthy sponsors and cannot pursue our goals without some means of support, we may have to pursue our goals & dreams piecemeal. Hold down the unsatisfying job and take care of your needs, but also be sure to set aside time to do the things you love. Although I would love to dedicate myself to being a full-time artist, the reality is that I don’t have the money and resources to do so. It’s nearly impossible without any means of support, and that increases when one stops to tabulate some of the true costs of being a full-time artist. Besides the cost of supplies and equipment, there are also the costs of travel, hotels, meals, transportation, promotion, the payment of taxes, among other expenses. This makes it both impossible and impractical for most people to be full-time artists. Therefore, you have to be able to work towards your goals piecemeal.
    Also, don’t let anyone dictate to you whether or not to pursue your goals. This applies even to those who “mean well.” All the naysayers made their choices in life, so don’t allow them to dictate yours. Most of all, don’t let the companies and their editors dictate your life, either. In short, keep doing what you love & keep striving for as many platforms for your vision as possible. Most of all, keep doing research and always be receptive to learning new things. We owe this to ourselves as striving artists.

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    • I agree there are a lot of similarities between writers and artists, it’s true that same resilience towards rejection needs to be built for both. Having no prior connections really does make the going tougher like you said, and I really don’t take the rejections personally but I do my best to adapt to the realities around me, and I agree we just need to keep right on pushing. I don’t have the resources to become a full time writer as well, but I’m finding ways to enjoy what I do for work. It’s true we have to work towards are goals bit by bit, it doesn’t happen overnight.
      And I completely agree, we can’t let others dictate to us the course of our lives. We need to recognize that in the end, it’s our lives to live. I’ll be sure to be receptive to learning new things, definitely a part of the deal with this type of pursuit. Every new step challenges a pre-conception about the approach to the goal. Thank you very much for this inspirational comment 🙂

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  23. Hey. Thanks for liking my post (iamyourfit.com) it was a brainstorm post, so slightly incoherent.
    I think you’re a great writer, and should definitely up it up a notch.
    I have found that visuals work great in websites, and the more successful ones have pictures near the articles (almost like the news websites or spotmebro.com) which attracts more readers.
    As far as rejection from publishers, I wouldn’t take that too seriously, as it’s completely subjective. You just need to submit your work to hundreds of people until you find a match. Half the people you may submit to are uneducated, and are simply not on a level to even read or understand your content.
    Stevepavlina.com related in one of his seminars which I had attended that he had been “screwed over” by multiple publishers and Goliath’s when he was younger. But when he focused on his website more, and began posting with a large following, he was offered a $50,000 upfront contract to publish a book based on his articles.
    Keep writing and let them come to you. Just market yourself enough, so that people know you exist.

    I can really use some motivation to publish my articles (I have so so many on desktop and personal files) and would love to co-write with someone. I don’t have many fully edited articles on my blog but this would be pretty close to an edited article http://iamyourfit.com/category/archives/ . I like to rewrite an article up to 8 times before I am satisfied with it. If you’re interested in writing together, or simply exchanging ideas and resources, about making money off a blog or the like, drop me a line on iamyourfit. Thanks Oscar-

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    • No problem at all thanks for the kind comment and for checking my blog out too! If you have lots of articles all ready set up on your desktop I’d say go for it and try to get them out there into the world systematically and keep patience while you build a readership. In regards to collaborations I’ve just been really busy as of late doing so many things outside of blogging, but I wish you nothing but the best with your blogging pursuits! That’s a crazy story about Steve Pavlina, I agree we just need to keep writing and creating and hopefully somewhere down the line the stars align for us 🙂

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  24. Wow, this is really insightful. Thanks for posting this, it was a great read. I was also thinking about writing a book. hope you find a brilliant literary agent and get your book published. Also 250,000 words that is awesome. i hope i can write that much in one book in the future.

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    • You are more than welcome so happy you enjoyed the read and found it insightful!! If you have a burning desire to write a book I say go for it!! I’m sure you could write that many words as well, though I wouldn’t advise it as I’ve found it can cause problems 100,000 words appears to be the preferred and expected count within the industry, thank you for the kind comment!!

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  25. We all feel like that sometimes. I hope you’re feeling more optimistic now. I’ll give you the same advice as the others, don’t be let down, keep moving ‘eppur se muove’, like the whole universe 🙂 Don’t let one or even a hundred persons’ opinions weigh you down. I have a suggestion for your long manuscript, what about making it longer, reaching 300,000 and make it into a trilogy! Whatever you decide to do, you can change your strategy, but not your objetive! Thanks for sharing your feelings 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for this lovely comment!! I am feeling more optimistic now but I know the job’s not even half done I still need to put a lot of work in before I’m anywhere near my literary objectives. And I agree you can’t let the opinions of even a hundred people weigh you down, you have to keep going. And that’s a very interesting idea haha a trilogy would be tremendous something worth considering! I agree the strategy must be ever-adapting but the objective remains the same thank you once again for your kind and insightful comment 🙂

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  26. Thank you for checking out my blog. The concept is new to me and I’ve never really read other blogs so I may be overdoing it a bit. Oh well. lol I liked Lucia’s idea – write on! Thomas Edison apparently was a firm believer in try, try again, not looking at any attempts as failures but as one more way he learned it didn’t work that way until one time it did. To the tune of thousands of times! Dream, visualize, commit to your goal of being published and change whatever has to be changed as you learn and evolve is my humble advice. Let nothing stop you. I look forward to being told when your book is in print so i can go read your book!

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    • No worries you’re not overdoing anything haha thank you for checking out my blog too! I believe in trying over and over again indeed until finally something clicks, I’m in a strange transient state where I’m constantly trying to adapt and play things by ear especially in my pursuit of this publishing dream. And I’m so happy you look forward to reading it! If ever I do get a book deal I’ll certainly make sure it’s readily available to any and all readers of this vast world thank you so much for your fantastic comment!! Have a great 4th of July Sharon!!

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  27. Love the fact that your blog is all about writing !!! no frills required …and with 300+ comments on this post i am sure you are not feeling the same anymore …btw thnx for liking my post .. i am new to this and any form of encouragement is a big boost …Keep writing !!!!

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    • Very happy you dig the overall theme! Definitely I blog about random topics but in the end, my blog really is primarily about the writer’s experience, and I’m very humbled by the amount of encouragement I’ve gotten through this blog and this blog post in particular it’s been a great blessing to have anybody reading my thoughts!! And you’re more than welcome, it’s true proper digestion is incredibly important for a healthy lifestyle I’ve noticed what affects me the most in this regard is stress and lack of sleep for whatever reason, but I definitely agree that more water consumption is a must and definitely need to make sure lunch is my biggest meal. Most days lunch is but sometimes I put it off till too late with work which is a definite no no haha great post!! And thank you so much for the encouragement I’ll be sure to keep writing!! 🙂

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  28. Thank you for making a connection lovely . I love this post because it is so personal and you are laying yourself bare to the world ~ being honest. This is rare. Being able to share yourself in this way is a true gift and my offering ~ the content is irrelevant 😉 This is your process around relationship and being the gift that you are. You know what I do ~ if you would like to know more about your bigger picture pattern and journey and do not have this Astrological and Mayan info ~ please message me your time,date and place of birth. This can give you a framework to use to become very proactive in your process if you choose. Be you and shine x

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    • Thank you so much for this inspirational comment, it really makes my day when I get feedback that people feel a connection with me through my writing!! I try to be honest when I write, and it sometimes makes me feel very vulnerable, but I’m slowly getting over any fears I have of laying myself bare through posts like these. I appreciate the offer I think anything that promotes a state of flow and getting into a proactive and productive mode is a plus thank you once again for the kind compliments on my writing style and for this lovely comment all the best to you Jo!! 🙂

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  29. I m sailing in the same boat Mr. Relentos bcos my blogs are too not fetching any viewer. But u rightly wrote that if u want to rise, u must fall first. One day will come when I would be viewed by more people like u. Congrats for being followed by a sizeable viewers. Love ur blogs n of course u too.

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    • Thank you so much for the compliments of my blog!! With time viewers come I’m very thankful to have anybody reading my thoughts it’s a blessing, and I’ve found in my own personal experience in life that we just need to never stop experimenting and trying new approaches, thank you once again for the kind comment!!

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  30. Thank you so much, Oscar, for being the very first person to like my blog. I felt…giddy! I had just picked my first summer tomato, and sat down to eat it and opened my email. When I read that you “liked” my post about Kara, I took a bite of my tomato and was celebratory! Cheers to both of us, and to summer tomatoes!
    I, too, have received a few rejection letters. When I opened my first, my editor/friend/mentor told me that it was a very GOOD rejection letter, because it was personal and they offered suggestions of who to send my work to. I felt oddly proud.
    So, I am especially grateful at the moment for having the opportunity to meet you through your work, and although I have only read this post and some responses, I am going to read more, and will await inspiring emails in my inbox when your new posts arrive.
    All the best to you!

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    • You’re more than welcome I’m honored to do so!! Your story about your piano student is an incredible story of overcoming and triumph of the human spirit it’s beautiful, it makes me realize I have no excuses in my own life for not living a happy fulfilling life and for overcoming the obstacles I face personally.
      And that’s fantastic that you received a personalized rejection letter with honest suggestions of how you should proceed with your work!! I’m just thankful to have readers of any of my posts at this point and people interested in my writing, I haven’t been posting as often as of late though I have been keeping very active in the blogosphere and I make sure to respond to comments on my posts though I’m not always as timely about it as I would like to be. My schedule has gotten very recently very crammed and it has left me very stressed out haha I digress but I’m so happy to meet you and best of luck to you with your literary pursuits Arleen!! Happy blogging!! 🙂

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      • I am totally impressed at how timely you responded, and you have set a high bar for me to follow. I will try to do the same for anyone who writes to me, because it feels so good to know you are being heard! Thanks again.

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      • No problem at all I apologize for not being as timely for this response haha but I do try my best to respond in a timely fashion, life’s all over the place as of late but I try to do right by those kind enough to read my thoughts. It does feel good to know you are being heard and not screaming into a vacuum I wholeheartedly agree, all the best to you!!

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  31. First, Oscar, thank you for visiting my site and liking my post (Inklings of a Bookworm: recniky.com). Second, you’ll never get acceptance letters if you don’t send out your work and get rejection letters. And third… Tristine Rainer in “Your Life as Story” says that the value of writing “may be measured not in how many people it reaches or good reviews it receives, but in the experience creating it gives the writer.” That’s where I am at the moment in writing my book (jodoran.co). Don’t quit. Keep writing.

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    • I completely hear that, in a weird way writing really changed me, the experience itself was a rewarding mix of emotions. And I agree we need to be willing to get through the rejections to get to the acceptances!! And you’re more than welcome, thank you for checking out my blog as well and for taking the time to write a kind and insightful comment like this one 🙂

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  32. I love your honesty. Don’t give up keep trying and while you are trying. Celebrate writing that many words is amazing. I’m writing my first novel and so far I only have 35,000 words and I can get down on myself sometimes but our jobs as writers is to write. You did that you should be proud you started and finished. Also make sure you send it out to many people and don’t take no for an answer. Also have you thought of self publishing?

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    • So happy you feel the honesty in my writing I try to just write from the heart and see where it takes me, and I know you can get to whatever word count goal you have in mind keep writing!! I didn’t think the story I was creating would expand quite so far but it did and I’m now trying to bring it down, but I appreciate your positive mindset on that word count it’s a good perspective for me to take thank you!! I have thought of self-publishing, I’ve been getting stretched thin at work as of late but I have been steadily considering different avenues in the realm of self-publishing my story but the exact approach I haven’t yet gotten set in stone in my mind just yet. Thank you for the kind comment!! 🙂

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    • It’s a tough going indeed getting work noticed I need to build my own stamina as well, and I wish I’d gotten more into yoga at a younger age it probably would have done me some good maybe I still could I don’t know haha I’m not flexible at all best of luck to you as well!!

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  33. Oscar that is an inspiration, thanks a lot. Nomatter the storm it’s just to testify how well crafted and strong your ship is, it’s then left for you to believe in it or allow in go under the ocean, I believe you you are in for a change to our generation.God Bless you

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    • You’re more than welcome, I’m happy to inspire in whatever way I can I’m very happy my writing has resonated with you.. I agree it’s up to us as individuals to decide whether or not we let our ships sink or we build them up to withstand the storms of life. God bless you as well all the best to you my friend 🙂

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  34. This year, I am finally publishing my mystery novel _Bait and Switch_ with a small publisher. It took forever, but I got there. I agree with the comment that you do have a nice way with prose. Just keep at it. Pay attention to any critiques you get. Some may not be useful because the editor or agent is looking for something you don’t intend to give him/her. Some will give you useful tips or suggestions, so pay attention and think, consider what you need to do. Whatever the case, stick with it and keep editing and revising. The time it took me to get published gave me the time to come up with a better work – made me a better writer. Don’t give up.

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    • Thank you so much for this insightful comment and congratulations on getting your work published that’s awesome!! And I appreciate the compliment of my writing, I definitely agree that I need to pay careful attention to critiques and advice I’m very open to outside thoughts and perspectives I know that familiarity can cloud my judgment of my work, but I do my best to defend perspectives and thoughts that I think are of value within my work. I’ve yet to have the experience of an editor or agent looking at my manuscript with a microscope but I do hope to have my work carefully critiqued some day in the future if the Universe so wills it haha thank you for the supportive advice I’ll be sure to keep at it, I do believe that this period of time trying to get representation or a publisher for my work is causing me to pause and reflect and re-consider approaches, and in the end making me a better writer for the struggle. Thank you so much once again it means a lot to me to get insightful comments like these 🙂

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