You first must fall

Today is a significant day for me, in that I received my first rejection letter today from a literary agent.

I’m reluctant to put this post on my blog for several reasons. First and foremost, because at the rate that I’ve been blogging I don’t have regular viewers, and so it’s clear that as of now nobody’s going to even read it. Secondly, the current primary purpose of my blogging is for cathartic release so I can find some improved direction through the chaos of my ramblings, that I might get some peace of mind knowing that I’m in a state of action instead of dejection and complacency. And I don’t necessarily need to put that up online to get that experience. Thirdly, this type of article will likely not be interesting to most people that are not writers, and I am still searching for what type of identity my blog should eventually take.

And as another strange way of me sublimating this depressing yet partly expected surge of negativity, I’ve decided to make a decision between two choices. Of course, our choices are close to infinite in reality. You never have only two choices in any given circumstance, but we reduce our choices to a few distinct selections to better grant structure to our lives, and create clearer direction. And I’m reminded of a scene from Fight Club where Tyler Durden mentions to Edward Norton’s character, that they can either kick fight club up a notch or shut it down for good. They were at a plateau in their journey. I’m at a plateau in my journey. I can either kick my writing up a notch, or shut it down. And if I might reduce the options even further, shutting it down is not an option for me. I need to write. I need it for my own sanity. It’s not so much a desire as it is a necessity now.

That’s one rejection letter from a literary agent. I’m sure there will be more to come. I’ll need to re-think my plan to a writing career. And I may need to parse down the word count of the manuscript (250,000+ words might be too much). And I’ll need to build up a better writing platform. And I’ll need to keep working on my new novel, making sure to keep it closer to 100,000 words. And if there are other writers out there who read this who are having a similar experience, I wish you the best of luck on your way to literary success.

All in all, before you rise, you first must fall.

I can feel myself falling. I’m willing to write and fall better. Let’s fall some more.

420 thoughts on “You first must fall

  1. You have many readers, does that help encourage you?
    Keep on writing in any case
    I felt your message was very positive.
    For your manuscript, maybe pretend you are writing the Reader’s Digest Condensed version?
    Thank you so much for liking “Pantry Purge.”
    Good luck, will look for your book in Books a Million soon!

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    • It truly does encourage me, I didn’t have this many readers when I initially posted this up, but since then many people have re-discovered this post and have begun following my blog, and I am deeply grateful for it. The outpouring of support has been tremendous, I couldn’t have asked for a more positive response from the greater blogging community. And I really hope some day I am published and available on sites like Books a Million! Haha that would be such a dream come true. I sympathize with you with your food allergies to wheat, corn, tomatoes, and gluten that just really sucks, I have several food allergies too. Not those particular ones but I do have several. Plus I’m allergic to lots of animals too which sucks since I think dogs are so awesome. Thank you so much for your encouraging comment it makes me all the more inspired to keep pursuing this dream!! 🙂

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      • Oscar, You are a Writer, and Writers Write! Dude, your first rejection letter? It’s time to pop some bottles and celebrate with friends! Why? Because your first rejection letter means you are DOING something and only writers get rejections letters from publishers! Listen, I did write a post recently on making friends with failure, and it mentions people who try more often, fail more often, and then succeed more often! Keep submitting your work, you are in good company! If you have friends who are good editors, maybe they could help you streamline, but I wouldn’t change your essence too much. Maybe look at being more concise? But then again, some famous authors write sentences as long as the Nile River, and it’s just about timing. Keep submitting, keep writing, and celebrate each rejection letter because they mean you are in the process! Cheers!!! Sasha, TheSaltyWoman.

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      • Haha that really is the best perspective, it’s action so for that much I’m happy. I just need to keep up the action, thanks for this needed push. It’s true it’s important to fail fast and learn so you can try again from fresh, better-informed angles. I’ll be sure to keep submitting and to keep writing. And you’re right you need to enjoy and appreciate every step of the process! Thanks so much for the comment Sasha!! Cheers!!

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      • Any time! Also, thank you for liking my post on Thoughts of a vapor, but I no longer use that name, just TheSaltyWoman now. Keep writing and kicking down some doors!! 😉

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  2. Congratulations on blogging and on the pursuit of one of your dreams. Your rejection is a confirmation that you are living and dreaming. I hope you will consider submitting to our journal as a piece of your dream.

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    • Thank you so much for the positive comment! And certainly I would consider submitting to your journal! I read what was displayed there it said January was a deadline? I would definitely be interested in being published in a journal though I have several short stories that I could put forward for consideration

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      • January next year is the deadline for next year’s journal. The website offers information on ordering prior issues, if you are interested in taking a look at one. We hope to get the issues online at some point (but that process has been very slow).

        I am also one of the poetry editors at Red Wolf Journal (if you write any poetry). https://redwolfjournal.wordpress.com/

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      • Awesome! Okay cool I do write some poetry but I mainly write stories, but that’s so cool thanks for the heads up on the journal! It could be really cool to send some stuff over!!

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    • No prob! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog as well, and thank you even more for the encouragement to keep writing!! I’m sure you’ll get there to whatever word count you so desire, though do know that 250,000 words apparently makes agents really afraid to take you on hahah happy writing and blogging and thank you so much once again for dropping on by!! 🙂

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  3. I am so glad that you will keep submitting! I actually set up a folder in my email labeled: YAY! Rejections. You don’t have to go to that extreme, but know each rejection is getting you closer to a YES 🙂 Thank you for following my blog!

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    • Not a bad idea at all I might just do that! It’s true every strike out gets you closer to the next home run like Babe Ruth used to say. No problem! Thank you so much for the kind comment and for dropping by my blog!! 🙂

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  4. Getting your first rejection letter is, l suspect, the name of the game for most of us. You might call it falling, but keep focusing on the rising part! That’s what you’re clearly doing, and doing so with grace! Keep it up and good luck!

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    • Thank you so much for the uplifting comment! I appreciate that you think I’m gracefully flowing through this process haha I don’t want to give off the impression that I’m bitter I’m certainly not. I knew going in this was a marathon not a sprint. Thank you so much once again for the positive comment, words like these are truly fuel for my fire I’ll do my best to rise as high as I can go!! 🙂

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    • No problem at all I’m honored you dropped by my blog too! This is also a piece of my mind which, having written helps give me peace of mind like you said I think I said it right haha thanks so much once again!! 🙂

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  5. I have often thought that if I was a guy (which I am not), I would lead a lonesome life since one “no” from the opposite sex would send me running. OK, I am trying to make an analogy here, and hope it worked for you. Remember, with acclaimed authors, we often see older works published after their best sellers because they were initially rejected. And I don’t think the number of words matters so much if you are able to keep the reader engaged. You love writing, so keep writing!

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    • I can sort of see the analogy haha I’m under no illusions I knew/know that this is a process and that it involves a lot of let downs but that you just have to keep right on pushing! And true it would be fantastic if I were able to get the book I’m writing published and then later on be able to publish this manuscript I have written, and I really wish the word count didn’t matter so much but from what I’ve researched most agents don’t even read the chapters if the word count is too high for them, but I would love for that to not be true. Thank you so much for the great comment, it’s very accurate that I do love writing haha I shall keep writing! Thank you so much once again!! 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for all of the positivity, I’m doing my best to pursue this dream of mine! And I don’t take these rejections personally I just hope at some point some day an agent decides there’s promise in my work, thank you so much for the comment and for your readership it means a lot to me!!

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  6. The general belief is that you have to paper a room with rejection notices before you’ll succeed. Imagine four walls, covered over…. by then a writer has developed a thicker skin, great determination and has a lot of words under her belt. Good luck and keep writing!

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    • I shall keep writing! Thank you for the uplifting comment you’re right I need to make sure my skin is tough, I can’t let myself get brought down by individual let downs they come with the territory. I’m under no illusions I expected that, but it still makes me take a step back to re-consider my approach that it might be more fine tuned. It’s a marathon, I’ve heard the papering your walls with rejection letters idea from several people now and I am strongly considering it hahah thank you so much for the comment all the best!!

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  7. “It’s not so much a desire as it is a necessity…”. You know you’re an artist, when you suddenly realize that you can’t stop yourself from pursuing this mad, unpredictable course. It’s in your blood. It feeds you and you feed it. Good luck with your writing! Thank you for stopping by and liking my latest post. 😉

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    • I hear you completely it’s been a process for me gaining a readership, but I’m happy to encourage you in any way I can! Keep at it! I have faith we’ll find better direction some day, happy blogging! 🙂

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  8. Thanks for stopping by my blog, and for this reminder about pushing on despite rejection. I’ve lost count of my rejections at this point, and I’ve started looking at every submission as “When I get my rejection back from X, then I can move on and submit to Y.” Good luck to you!

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    • No problem at all thank you for stopping by mine! Very happy you took something positive from this post, we really just have to keep pushing regardless of what happens. Good luck to you with your literary pursuits as well!! 🙂

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  9. It is lovely to see how many positive reactions you got here…
    So take a deep breath and just think it is the publisher’s loss… 😉 And keep on writing!
    Thanks for the ‘follow’, by the way.

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  10. Thank you for stopping by my blog. This post of yours is thought-provoking, well-written and pertinent to all of us writers, so please don’t take one literary agent’s rejection too harshly. Remember that they are all trying to make money out of writers, and if they can’t be sure that your book is the next sure-fire blockbuster they won’t take the risk. This is no reflection on your talents as a writer. Keep on writing! After 18 months of agent (and some publisher) rejections I put my novel on Amazon and realised that they had been right – mine is not a blockbuster. But that doesn’t mean that it hasn’t found its own (small) audience. Yours will too!

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    • Thank you so much for your kind comment, very true I don’t take any individual agent’s rejection too harshly at all but it does serve as motivation for me to re-think ways that I can better approach things, but that’s great advice thank you so much! I agree that it’s tough to know what will or will not be a best seller and agents take on a lot of risk taking on new writers, and that’s so cool that you’ve at least sold your book to people! It’s true whatever audience finds my book I feel it’s going to be worth it, I’m so happy that you felt the post connected with you that’s the whole reason that I write to connect with others!! Thank you so much once again for your comment and best of luck to you in your writing pursuits as well!!

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  11. If you have but one rejections slip you have a way to go in my experience. I remember my first one. It was both discouraging and exhilarating to realize that I had at last placed something in front of an editor…no matter how sub-sub-sub the title of that editor. Good luck.

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    • Very true I know it’s going to be a long journey it is both discouraging and exhilirating simultaneously haha thank you so much for the comment and the good luck wishes! Best of luck to you as well!

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  12. What a lovely post! Most of my blogs are about just writing and forgetting about being published. I’ve had good luck in the past but the publishing world is changed and I bless my stars just to have the joy of writing. It’s all you can count on. Thanks for following me and I will surely do the same with you. We’re in it together, brother!

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    • No problem at all, and I’m so happy you liked my post thank you! It’s true the publishing world is shifting every year, who knows where things are going to stabilize. And yes indeed the joy of writing is its own reward it’s a blessing to just have that freedom as a part of life. And we’re definitely in it together thanks for the follow!! Happy writing and blogging and to a happy life!! 🙂

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    • It is a long journey indeed, so happy you liked the red pandas piece as well! They are adorable creatures the whole world should know about them, best of luck to you in your writing endeavors as well! 🙂

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  13. What’s that expression? Fall down 7 times, get up 8… There will be lots more rejection letters than acceptance letters – that’s just the way it works. Don’t sweat the no’s – just keep plugging and know you’re that much closer to a yes!

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  14. Please forget about rejection, that happens to everyone. Also, the number of friends you have can be problematic. The important thing is to remember to keep posting. Like a flint that strikes steel in the attempt to start a fire, it only takes one…. and sometimes that single one well-framed spark, can be the start of an enormous intellectual conflagration!

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    • I’m digging all of that hahah thank you for the inspirational comment! You’re right it doesn’t do to dwell on any individual rejection and I won’t, this particular post came about within that same day and while I was in a pretty introspective state. But you’re right I just have to keep at it, keep writing keep posting, hopefully there will be a spark one day that starts the enormous intellectual conflagration you have so eloquently prophesied! Haha thank you so much once again happy blogging!! 🙂

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    • So happy you liked the post! I loved your post about the dos and don’ts of dealing with agents and acquisition editors, it’s very true it’s important to research agents and get a feel for them before you even consider any sort of interacting with them, tremendous tips outside that one as well but that one’s just so damn important from what I’ve read. I’m looking forward to heading to a conference sometime in the future, thanks so much for stopping by! 🙂

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  15. Reblogged this on makeyourvoicesmatter and commented:
    Really like how you pull yourself together when you are falling apart… rejections are like scars received by a warrior in the battlefield.. scars which a writer has to learn from…. so keep climbing the mountain you would stumble on your way up.. but you would surely reach the top if u keep trying.. trying to make difference in this world.

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    • Wow thank you so much for the reblog and this tremendous comment!! It’s true rejections aren’t too easy to deal with, but I’m prepared for every level of rejection I’ll inevitably meet on the way to a literary career. It’s true I want to feel that I’ve made an impact on this world, and I hope that once I finally am able to get my story out there that people will connect with it and hopefully feel like they’ve been enriched by it. I’ll be sure to keep climbing this mountain that we all must climb to reach our dreams, thank you so much once again for the uplifting comment it’s comments like these that keep me going 🙂

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    • I’m happy so many people have responded to this post in a positive way, I know it’s not all going to happen over night but I certainly won’t stop writing. Thanks so much for the comment 🙂

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  16. Oscar, keep writing many famous people got told they were no good at school and would not amount to anything and yet they did. Yes perhaps you need to condense your writing but at least you are writing. ps thanks for following my blog. Like you its my attempt to put myself out there into space and see what happens. It is also a discipline as I have never managed to keep a diary going, so at the ripe old age of 65 I am trying an online version.

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    • Thank you for the supportive comment, I’m going to keep writing for sure no matter how many hurdles I run into but I definitely feel I must change and adapt along the way as I learn. And no problem at all, I know what you mean about keeping an online log of things it is cathartic in its own way, thank you so much once again for the kind comment 🙂

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  17. Oscar,
    Oh. The falls and failings of writers. I look at them as necessary steps in the road to success. Stay at it. You are a very good, interesting ,and agile writer. Try to tighten up your prose to get those lower word counts. It’s good to see you received so much support from the blogging (writing) community. I am still at it after a long search for a publisher. In the meantime I’m writing children’s stories. That’s my first love. Write what you love. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for the follow. Best wishes for your writing success.
    Betsy

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    • Thank you so much for the supportive comment! Very true they are necessary steps. I really appreciate your complimenting my writing style, I’ve tried to tighten up my writing a bit more but I do have a ways to go before I’m as efficient as I need to be. That’s awesome that you like to write children’s stories! I’m more into writing literary fiction and fantasy but I loved reading children’s books like Harry Potter growing up. I wholeheartedly agree, you’ve got to write what you love. Best of luck to you in finding a publisher and starting up your career as well! 🙂

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  18. Trust me Oscar, you do have readers. I find your write up comical yet deep. Rejection is part of life, you will sure get acceptance soon enough. I can relate to this post especially the writing part. No matter how many times we fall, we just have to be picking ourselves up, and get going.
    Thanks for liking my post on 2talesisters blog. Have a great day.

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    • Thank you so much for being a reader of mine, every reader means a lot to me. It’s true I knew I was going to get shot down it comes with the territory, and yes indeed we must always be picking ourselves back up from every knockdown. No problem at all, thank you so much for dropping by my blog and leaving such a kind comment! You have a great day as well!!

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  19. Very aptly and optimistically phrased, sir. I appreciated your last line about falling some more. Though it looks like you’ve come a long way since then, I’ve always reminded of Einstein’s 1,000 ways not to make a light bulb at such times. We fail, but there’s always something to learn from and build from it. Thank you for stopping by my page. Best of luck to your writing endeavors!

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    • By the way, please forgive the spelling errors! 1,001 reminders to proofread before posting. Well, at least I’m making my point. 🙂

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      • No need to apologize haha I don’t mind nor did I notice i’m quite tired at the moment, thank you once more for stopping by my blog and for your kind comment on this post 🙂

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    • You’re most welcome, so happy you enjoyed this post! I’m glad you enjoyed the portion of falling some more, there’s always something new to be learned from every experience. Thankful that you believe I’m making progress, I’ve still got a very long way to go though. Thanks so much for the positive comment and for your well wishes! Best of luck to you in all you pursue as well!! 🙂

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  20. Thanks, Oscar, for the visit and the like.

    Regarding your rejection letter post, “you first must fall,” as a pilot: to learn to fly, you must first know what falling is and learn how not to. This is called “flight training.” On another tack, I have repeatedly heard comedians say, in regard to their craft, “You must fail, you must flop” to learn how to succeed.

    Perhaps, success is premised in mistakes and failure…

    So, congratulations on your rejection letter: I don’t even have one yet! 🙂

    Blessings,
    Scott

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    • No problem at all, thank you for this kind and insightful comment! I’ve never learned much about the process of becoming a pilot, but that makes sense that learning how not to fall and what the process is would be important for a pilot to understand. It’s true how comedians often say they need to flop before they can really put up a great set in the future. Hopefully it’s true that I’ll learn what’s necessary to succeed from my experiences, thank you once again for the comment! All the best to you with your writing as well!! 🙂

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      • Thank you for your reply and the follow.

        Not to sermonize, but learning to fly is all about balance and accomplishing the right actions at the right time … just like any new endeavor we undertake.

        In the case of writing, we learn to balance vocabulary, grammar, expression, voice, theme, etc. in order to communicate our creativity.

        May we all soar high and may all our landings equal or exceed the number of our takeoffs.

        Scott

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  21. Few authors don’t receive a rejection slip or two or more but that sometimes says more about the publisher than about your work. At the end of the day there’s always the Indie option which does allow you the lions share of the profits. When you’re a writer you write, even when your work isn’t published. Writing is a disease, I hope you don’t get cured.
    Hugs

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    • I hear all of that, writing is truly a beautiful affliction hope you stay afflicted all your life as well! I may go the indie root I’m in an in between place at the moment but I’m strongly considering that. Thank you so much for the kind comment! Best wishes to you!! 🙂

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  22. “Of course, our choices are close to infinite in reality. You never have only two choices in any given circumstance, but we reduce our choices to a few distinct selections to better grant structure to our lives, and create clearer direction.”
    This line really struck me. I’m very much a Sartrian Existentialist (if you’re unfamiliar with the works of Jean Paul Sartre, he was very interested in Choices & how they dictate our lives) & this idea really appealed to me. I too am a writer & I write for myself mostly, but it is nice to get recognition sometimes (BTW, thank you for liking my recent post on my own blog – Talking Theology With My Son). Indeed, first we must fall, but if we don’t fall – we rarely are able to appreciate the achievement of success when it does come! Keep writing. There are those of us out here in the world who love to share ideas & if you don’t write them out, your ideas never get shared.

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    • Thank you for this comment!! I identify myself as an existentialist as well, but I still have a pretty strong draw to the spiritual side of life, I hope that’s not a complete contradiction haha I don’t necessarily see existentialism as a rigorous philosophy so much as a movement as others have said, I’m more familiar with Nietzsche but I am somewhat familiar with Sartre though I haven’t yet read any of his books. I’m definitely happy you liked that portion, and true I also write for myself mostly but it’s nice to let others into my head from time to time and now that I’ve written a work I like I really want to find a way to get it out to people in a way that’s meaningful. No problem at all I liked your post a lot actually, it’s amazing to hear that type of perspective from such a young kid haha you should be very proud your child’s a deep thinker. I agree I think we underestimate just how much brilliance there can be in the mind of a child, and I would say his view is sort of in line with my personal belief structure as well I believe God is within us all, and that my conception of God is not necessarily a Biblical, Abrahamic conception of God, but I do believe there is some Higher Power present Whom I honestly fear because I don’t fully understand Him, yet I sense His presence all around me. I sort of wrote my book struggling with these perspectives and it was my way of dealing with all the cognitive dissonance growing up in a very rigid religious structure can bring while having very independent and secular beliefs about the nature of the spiritual world, considering so much pain and suffering occurs within humanity. I definitely think you’re doing a good job raising your child to ponder these theological questions without forcing a religious perspective onto his free mind. Thanks so much once again for this deep comment I love having conversations like these haha keep writing as well!! 🙂

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  23. You know, I have dreamed and dreamed about the day I get my first rejection letter from a literary agent because that means I’ve actually finished something enough to try. I applaud you for submitting for consideration and encourage you to keep all of your rejection letters to look back on.

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    • Thank you for this, it’s true I plan on keeping them all. I’m sure some day you will have written a work of yours to completion and will be out there submitting to agents! I wish you the best of luck when that day comes, you’ll get the chance to shoot for your dream! Thanks once again for this positive comment!!

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  24. Thank you for liking my post on Scribal Habit today.
    Oscar, a Real Writer doesn’t write in hopes of being accepted by an agent or even an audience. He doesn’t write for the money, although if he’s blessed the money does come in time. He writes because he can do nothing else. He “likes” to write in the way most people would say “I like to breathe”. ❤

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  25. I too have the rejection slips.. Frame them… BUT DON’T give up… Keep writing there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for popping in and taking a look at my blog. Happy writing AJ

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  26. good luck on the writing, i’m sure after the stats of this post alone 212 comments and 307 likes (not too shabby)you’ve changed the idea that you shouldn’t engage in this catharsis.I too am a writer but not the publishing kind mine is just an art that opens my envelope of misery and happiness to the fresh air outside once in a while for i am an introvert with many things to say but in spite of that i truly understand your dismay.I learnt late in life to hold my failures and rejections close because truly your progress is just the sum total of all your failures, your successes are for everyone else.
    I feel bad about writing this i’m sure you are tired of coming back to this successful post to read pretty much the same thing, for that i apologize and now you can get back to your failures.
    stay frosty

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    • Thanks so much for this comment! No need to apologize at all I don’t mind haha I’m very pleasantly surprised by the traffic this post has garnered and I’m deeply grateful for it the support has been tremendous! It’s true future success often hinges on knowledge gained from past failures. So happy you empathize with my dismay, you definitely have no need to apologize I’m grateful for every new reader. Stay frosty as well happy blogging!!

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  27. I enjoyed your article , You sounds like me at some points and then I like it more!
    Thank you for liking my blog you are the first to like it by the way .. Good Luck in your writing career

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  28. FALLING in love is wonderful, so wonderful so they say. Keep writing keep falling, keep getting up. Good luck with your search for an agent. I gave up and self-published. Not that one is better than the other. Like you I have to write. I’m not sure whether it’s a curse or a blessing. Thanks for the like on my blog.

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    • No problem at all, thank you for checking out my my blog as well! I’ll be sure to never stop writing, it’s true I question whether or not it’s a blessing or a curse at times, but I choose to stay positive. Best of luck to you with your writing pursuits as well! 🙂

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  29. Please, don’t give up! This is a cut and paste but I wanted to share it with you.
    Check out these excerpts from REAL famous author rejections:
    Sylvia Plath: There certainly isn’t enough genuine talent for us to take notice.
    Rudyard Kipling: I’m sorry Mr. Kipling, but you just don’t know how to use the English language.
    J. G. Ballard: The author of this book is beyond psychiatric help.
    Emily Dickinson: [Your poems] are quite as remarkable for defects as for beauties and are generally devoid of true poetical qualities.
    Ernest Hemingway (regarding The Torrents of Spring): It would be extremely rotten taste, to say nothing of being horribly cruel, should we want to publish it.

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  30. Thank you for liking my blog In the Company of Myself (http://www.inthecompanyofmyself.wordpress.com). I am really only just starting to write a blog in earnest. I have had a few short essays published in ezines, and I have had quite a few rejections. At first, I was heart broken as I read the rejection. Then I realized, anyone who wants to be a published writer will have to go through this many times. It is what will weed out those who are serious from those who are not. I enjoyed reading your post and look forward to reading many more.

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    • Thank you so much for your comment, you’re absolutely right the rejection process partly serves to weed out those who are serious about a writing career from those who are only passing by. I know it’s only the start for me experiencing this process firsthand. So happy you enjoyed reading my post, thank you so much for your readership, I liked your post on change. It’s crazy you’ve been through a lot, but I see that you’ve chosen to use your experiences as fuel instead of as negative weights in your life and that’s the best possible way to go it shows a lot of strength I applaud that. Thanks once again for your kind comment, writing is such a solitary experience it’s nice to have this sense of community about it through blogging sites like WordPress, all the best of luck to you in your every endeavor 🙂

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      • Yo, Big O –
        I recently noticed your Comment on the 5/18/15 entry to my blog…mooches grasses, hombre! Glad to know SOMEone’s reading/understanding me! Can’t say I get too many “warm fuzzies” such as your “Like”.
        I often wonder if I’m merely destined for the literary scrapheap of blog-anonymity!? So, I just wanted to say thanx! Or, to quote that obscure duo, “Bartles and James” (of 1980’s TV adverts fame) “thank-ya’ for your support.”

        You obviously are quite the sensitive, insightful, philosophical sort. For one thing, you “thought 5/18/15 was pretty awesome”! OK, I realize that might come off a bit egotistical and self-serving. But honestly, I can also see/hear the evidence in your OWN writing, “You first must fall”. Very astute stuff, Senor Relentos. You are clear, concise, clever, and conscientious…all good qualities of a gifted writer, which YOU ARE! And judging by a quick surveillance of the numerous Comments from your readers/writers, many others are of the same opinion.

        I was particularly struck by one of your reflections: “…the current primary purpose of my blogging is for cathartic release so I can find some improved direction through the chaos of my ramblings, that I might get some peace of mind knowing that I’m in a state of action instead of dejection and complacency.” Wow, well, said, “S-OSCAR-TES”!
        You sound wise beyond your years, which I presume to be quite few (you are just a young and hungry pup, yes?!?)
        I decided early on in my blog-o-triping that my aim was NOT to be recognized or get published; rather I wanted, if not NEEDED, to write only for myself. Not only does this approach avoid a lot of unnecessary pressure on oneself, but I find it results in a greater sense of accomplishment and reward. If I like my own product myself, that’s enough. Everyone else can fuck off. Thus, I write not to be read, but to be released! My best advice to you, Oscar, is to do the same. Remember the old adage, “To thine own self be true”? Well, just change “be” to “write”…

        I look forward to maintaining a correspondence with you, dude. Cool with you? May I also be so bold as to invite you to sample some more of my blog postings? I’ve been rather delinquent the past 2 years, but I just re-surfaced this past week, which you apparently viewed. I started on my b-day, 11/17/10, and actually I feel that very initial posting is still one of my best efforts. Check it out – the launch of my quest (Moby Dick motif not-with-standing!) and give me your honest assessment. I promise to read more of your musings too. Write on, Wayne!…er…Oscar!

        definitely, definitively, & defiantly,

        – JTJ )

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      • Gracias senor! So happy you enjoy my blog post and connected with it, I agree we must be true to ourselves, and more than anything else writing is for the self, we write to expand ourselves. So I’m with you on all of that writing is a fantastic release, but I’d still love to be able to create more out of it some day if I can God willing! Tough for me to respond to every bit of this comment but I really do appreciate your taking the time to comment on my blog it means a lot to me to have readers, and I see you are more than willing to speak your mind, more power to you in your blogging pursuits! My schedule’s been crazy as of late but I stopped by for a bit and I think you have an interesting angle on many topics, I’ve thought about many similar issues but I’ve as of late strayed away from making my blog too political, though when I do feel strongly about an issue I may speak on it, but you have your own vibe and your own voice and your own unique insights, and I wish you the best thank you for taking the time to take a trip through my ramblings 🙂

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  31. Falling is good but flying is better. I have a draw of rejection slips. I stopped sending my books in twenty years ago.
    I’m still writing. I write for me.
    Who knows.
    Best wishes
    Opher

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    • True flying would be nice, I hear that, writing becomes a part of your being after a while. I know that I’ve got to keep at it to have any hope, hopefully some day something catches. Best wishes to you as well!

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  32. Hello Oscar!

    Thank you for checking out and following realityspace! It is an honor…
    I know what that first rejection feels like… I try to remember it all happens for a reason.
    I have fallen more times that I can count…

    Take care,
    Melissa
    realityspace

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  33. Oscar, be of good cheer. Don’t allow this to steal your passion. I do understand where you’re coming from. Writing is like second nature to me. It is sometimes through rejections/setbacks that one can garner moss and obtain a second wind. Use this rejection as a muse to propel you to write that best seller. Already, I enjoy your words. Keep on writing. By the way, thank you for visiting my blog.
    Cheers!

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  34. It’s good to search your thoughts, share them, and write them down. Seems to be part of the writer’s cycle. I just received a rejection email. The piece wasn’t right for the current themed journal (downer) but they want to see more, (upper.) Keep writing, as I know you will, as each of us will.

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    • I agree that it’s good to explore yourself and try to capture something of that exploration on the the page. And that’s awesome that you received positive feedback and that they want to see more from you! We shall both keep writing indeed, the grind never ends best of luck to you!! 🙂

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